Monday was a helluva day. My baby is one month old and I have been flying solo for a few weeks here and getting my groove with two. But, it’s hard. I don’t think that it will ever not be hard. When your kids are little and you are in the thick of it you gotta be able to count on your partner. Luckily, I did a pretty good job choosing one if I do say so.
Choosing the right person is only half of it. Marriage is work. It’s more work when there are two small people who demand 99.9% of your attention daily involved and you can barely keep your eyes open when they are in bed to mumble back in forth about your day. I am still on maternity leave so I am home with the girls 24/7 pretty much right now. That’s tough. My husband helps out where he can in the morning, comes home on lunch, and jumps back in the ring the minute he gets home. These toddler/infant days are all hands on deck.
Just to make it through the day takes all you’ve got. I couldn’t imagine not having my partner to tag team it with me. I love him. He loves me. We do say it, but right now it isn’t the most important phrase in our relationship.
That would be “thank you.”
Thank you for giving our oldest a bath, for doing that load of laundry, for brewing that second pot of coffee, for being here. It doesn’t matter if the things you are they are doing are “their job” or “something you always do.” Just saying thank you and extending the appreciation, voicing it that’s what’s important. People want to feel needed, appreciated, they want to know their efforts aren’t going unnoticed. When you are killing yourself every day to keep the household running either at home or at work, it matters to that someone sees you, sees that you are doing your best.
Just say thank you. I appreciate you. I love you.
I see you are doing your best.
We can do this.
Shauna Hyler, mommy of two beautiful girls! Working, blogging, and adventuring with the hubby and my sweet girls.